I think sometimes we get so boggled down with our kids and our marriage that we forget about us and what we need to do for ourselves. I try to be a firm believer that everything happens in ours lives happens for a reason. This is easier said than done sometimes. Like right now I’m obsessing on how it is taking 7 years to complete a 2 year graduate degree. This is something I want (I think I want it) and it’s something I need to move further in my career.
I’m sitting here trying to figure out how I managed to get a 4 year degree while having toddlers and here it is my kids are teenagers and I can’t seem to find the time or focus to finish this degree that can expand my career and take it to another level. Where did my drive and ambition go to I focus so much on my kids that it just slowly left me and now I’m just focused on how to get them through these years and off to college themselves.
I’ve given myself until the Spring 2016 semester to return to school not only because it’s important but, because I will be dropped from my program. I’m starting to think that I’m letting the fear of failure hold me back from achieving my goals. It’s hard when you have this nagging voice telling you to give up. And then it’s a little voice telling you to push forward.
So, here today I plan to focus on moving forward and I will finish my degree and accomplish something that I hold near and dear to my heart. If that means the kids will have to take a back seat for a semester so be it. I’m determined to finish what I started.
If you have a dream, goal, or a push to do something. Get off your butt and do it because the only way to fail is if you try. You can’t fail if you never tried in the first place. Join me in putting on our big girl/boy pants and making things happen in our lives.
“Fear is a self-imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be. You must move against it with the weapons of faith and love.” (Rick Warren)
Where is a parenting manual when you need it? I swear as your children get older it appears to get harder. My kids are very smart;however, why didn’t anyone tell me that when they hit 6th grade they lose their minds. You would have thought I learned from the first two and was prepared for the the 3rd one. Oh No! I just knew he was going to be focused and do what he’s suppose to do. But, he too is adjusting to being a 6th grader and I’m trying to give him time to find his groove.
Not saying my kids are not making good grades in school because they are it’s just the homework. I admit I work a lot and so a lot of my time is just stopping at the house long enough for everyone to pile in the car and head to practice. Yet, when I come home I’m checking planners for homework even in the 6th, 8th, and 9th grade. Lately we have been turning in late assignments, no assignments, and staying up late completing homework that should have been done hours ago. I’m trying hard not to be a Tiger Mom; however, like I said before I know what they are capable of and I will not allow them to fall below their potential.
My biggest fear is that they are going to grow up and follow in my footsteps and not live up to their full potential. When I got to high school I got lazy and was more into socializing than focusing on school work. I was not focused on college, careers, or even the future. I was only focused on the present. I lived in the present so long that I did not properly set myself up for future success.
So, now I’m buying dry eraser calendars, on pinterest finding printables, and doing everything in my power to get them organized. I’m trying to do everything in my power to help them be successful. No one said it would be easy but, Lord knows I didn’t think it would be this hard. But, I know I have good kids and it’s my job to raise them the best way I know how.
Well enough of my Middle School Blues!
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As the new school year approaches I find myself thinking about what are the expectations I’m setting for my kids this year. I have added some components to help us be organized such as a Family Command Center
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/356136283011453760/ . This is not my actual command center; however, it is what I am working towards. I often get a lot of my peers on Facebook inboxing me about how do I keep my kids on track (honor roll, high test scores, and athletics). My answer to that is I set standards and expectations for my children. This has been something my husband and I have done since they entering preschool. This goes for school work and behaviors.
If you allow your child to think that “C’s” are acceptable than you will start to get “C’s.” I have high expectations for my children because I am fully aware of what their capabilities. If they struggle I remind them of the importance of working harder. We live in the world where nothing is impossible but, it is all a matter of how much effort are you willing to put into it. Have confidence in your children and be aware of their needs. Children will see your confidence and they will learn to have confidence within themselves. Praise your children when they meet your expectations and offer them assistance and encouragement when they do not. Once you set the bar it goes pretty far in raising hardworking children.
Just a reminder teachers can not do it alone. It’s the love, support, and participation from parents that take our children to the next level.