My Journey: Taking Care of Me

I think sometimes we get so boggled down with our kids and our marriage that we forget about us and what we need to do for ourselves. I try to be a firm believer that everything happens in ours lives happens for a reason.  This is easier said than done sometimes. Like right now I’m obsessing on how it is taking 7 years to complete a 2 year graduate degree. This is something I want (I think I want it) and it’s something I need to move further in my career.

I’m sitting here trying to figure out how I managed to get a 4 year degree while having toddlers and here it is my kids are teenagers and I can’t seem to find the time or focus to finish this degree that can expand my career and take it to another level. Where did my drive and ambition go to I focus so much on my kids that it just slowly left me and now I’m just focused on how to get them through these years and off to college themselves.

I’ve given myself until the Spring 2016 semester to return to school not only because it’s important but, because I will be dropped from my program. I’m starting to think that I’m letting the fear of failure hold me back from achieving my goals. It’s hard when you have this nagging voice telling you to give up. And then it’s a little voice telling you to push forward.

So, here today I plan to focus on moving forward and I will finish my degree and accomplish something that I hold near and dear to my heart. If that means the kids will have to take a back seat for a semester so be it. I’m determined to finish what I started.

If you have a dream, goal, or a push to do something. Get off your butt and do it because the only way to fail is if you try. You can’t fail if you never tried in the first place. Join me in putting on our big girl/boy pants and making things happen in our lives.

“Fear is a self-imposed prison that will keep you from becoming what God intends for you to be.  You must move against it with the weapons of faith and love.” (Rick Warren)

Crazy Lady

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Married for 3,608 days!

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So, I’ve been married for 3,608 days which is roughly almost 10 years. I must say the journey to get this far was definitely a difficult one. But, it has taught me to value my husband and his feelings and not just my own. The first couple years of marriage was about teaching each other what the other person needed in order to remain married.

I admit that I let life events and our children to prevent me from being a wife at times. I had to learn that despite being a family my role as a wife is different than that of being a mother. My family as a whole require my love and attention; however, separately my husband requires the same thing.

Being married for this long let me know that it’s the little non-material things that matter most such as the following:

1. Recording out favorite shows so we can watch them together

2. Showering together and debriefing about our day

3. Working out together

4. MAKING THE DECISION ON IMPROVING OUR RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD TOGETHER

5. Our emoji conversations

6. The laughs we share

These are just a few on a list of many that allow us to continue to grow and remain grounded in our marriage. Just like my kids my husband can contribute to my craziness! But, I love them and couldn’t ask for a better family.

Crazy lady